
Recently I was accused of not being a gentleman for opening a car door for a lady.
Yes. The definition of the word is "the medieval knightly system with its religious, moral, and social code." It is associated with ideals of knightly virtues, honor, and courtly love. Today's society has greatly decayed to a standard that strays far from this definition. Chivalry requires cooperation from both genders.
Before I delve any further into this issue, we need to define the term "lady." It is defined as a woman (used as a polite or old-fashioned form of reference) of superior social position. Both the roles of males and females has evolved and been warped into something a lot different. The average person's sense of morality has been decayed.
The first point i'm going to discuss is premarital sex. Back in the time period where chivalry was very alive, this subject was seen as taboo. Women were a lot less promiscuous than they are today. Men would go through greater lengths for a virgin than someone who has been around the block. Knights would slay dragons and climb tall towers for a virgin. A woman who has lost her virginity and has had many partners has less of a value than a virgin princess. A new car is always better than a used one. Today's woman is very unlikely to have a fairy tale true because of this. Simply put, they aren't worth as much anymore.
Another, less chauvinistic reason for the death of chivalry, is woman's current social standing. Women have come a very long way in terms of civil rights. They are becoming more and more independent. Simply put, there is no need for it anymore. Because they are coming out of the kitchen, they don't need men to do as many things for them anymore. Sure a car door being opened for you is nice, but not necessary. Women's are becoming more and more equal to men. It would be like one bro opening the door for another... except a bro with a vagina. Women own their own cars now. They can open the door for themselves.
Men are taking advantage of women's rise in status, well, black men mostly. Any time there is an opportunity for them to do less work, believe it is going to be utilized.
Personally, I don't see any reason for chivalry to be dead. A lady deserves a gentleman, and a gentleman deserves a lady. But if you aren't a lady, don't expect a gentleman.